'Emily Post's Manners in a Digital World': 6 lessons for being polite with technology

The rules for regular social interactions are fairly easy to remember: send thank-you notes, choose the second fork, introduce this person to that one first. But what about the sometimes-murky world of technology? How do you know if you're being polite in the digital realm? Daniel Post Senning, the great-great-grandson of the original grand dame of etiquette, Emily Post, offers advice in his book 'Emily Post's Manners in a Digital World.'

1. Smart phones

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Inconsiderate cell phone use is one of the most frequent causes of rudeness in the digital age, says Senning. If your phone rings, think about where you are. "Before making a call in public, ask yourself if it might be annoying to anyone else," he writes. "If it would be, step aside first." But being careful about when and where to use your phone also has a flip side. "If you are waiting for a call to coordinate meeting up with people, be sure your phone is on, powered up, and gets a signal," Senning writes. "It's so annoying to try to reach someone who is not answering his phone when he should be."

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