The mother in you
A Christian Science perspective.
Mother’s Day has become a day, globally, to honor the role of the mother. Nothing could be more natural than to recognize the selfless love, as well as the often tremendous sacrifice, many mothers make for the comfort and well-being of their children.
But what about times when women long to be mothers, and for one reason or another this aspect of life eludes them? Does Mother’s Day increase their sense of deprivation?
Just as my husband and I were ready to welcome a child into our home, I lost the baby a few months into my pregnancy. This hit me very hard. I was praying with a Christian Science practitioner, who stayed with me in prayer at the time, while I tried to overcome deep sadness and handle the gnawing, recurring questions, “What if I can’t be a mother? What if this is not to be?” When I asked him about these questions, I fully expected him to answer that I would surely be a mother. Instead, he said that he didn’t know what God’s intention for me was, but that he did know God loved me and would always provide everything I needed to glorify Him.
At first, I felt a kind of crushing terror. But later on that day, I went outside and sat on a blanket in the warm sunshine, perched on top of a snowbank. I prayed deeply and openly. I asked God to show me Her design. I said, “If I am not to mother children, let me mother whatever ideas or projects or activities You give me.” I promised that I would nurture and love any ideas God sent my way, and I gave up the idea that I had to have little children in order to be a mother. As a result of this prayer, I realized that mothering could not be restricted to a particular human design, but that it was a quality of God and therefore creatively unlimited.