From grieving to living
A Christian Science perspective.
One day while crying about my late husband, Jamie, my son, James, said to me, “Mom, I know how much you miss him. But I’m still here.”
We hear God's direction in many ways, ways that meet us where we are. That day I felt that my son's words held an important message for me. Over the years, God has spoken to me through the voice of Christian Science, whose teachings are based on the Bible’s holy promises and life lessons.
As I prayed for comfort and guidance in the months following my husband’s passing, I often pondered deeply this passage from the Bible: “I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live” (Deut. 30:19).
Through this Bible passage, I felt God was, in a way, telling me to choose the life of my son over the death of my husband. I considered that I was empowered by God to let the blessing of my son’s presence have greater sway over my life than the suggested curse of widowhood. I wasn’t doomed to limp through my remaining days, swathed in black. I really could walk happily onward, feeling the God-given joy of ever-present divine Love, reflected by all the loving people still sharing the earth with me.
This doesn’t mean to suggest that I love or honor my husband less than I honor my child. But it does seem to me that my son needs my smiles more than my husband needs my tears. And there is so much more to it than just putting on a happy face to make things more pleasant for James. From what I’ve come to know about God, divine Love, I’m convinced that whatever my husband’s sense of life includes now, he knows that God loves him. God is Love and everywhere present. Therefore, divine Love must be eternally uninterrupted.