The top 5 things never to ask your child right after school
You want to interact and make a connection. Your kids do, too, but not in the way you might think. Youâ€™ve missed them, want to know what they did in your absence, how they got along, or if they had any problems. But to your kids, questions feel like an interrogation.
They just spent a long hard day meeting (or not) expectations, doing things they donâ€™t want to do, following orders, coping as best they can, and hopefully working hard and learning. They need a break. They need to know, here is the place where I am completely accepted and loved. They need to chill. When your kids get off the bus, climb in the car, or come through the door, welcome them back home. A big smile, a hug, a touch and an â€śIâ€™m so glad to see youâ€ť or â€śHello, my darlingâ€ť will give your kids the grounding that home provides with no expectations. Your unconditional happiness in greeting them will create the stress-free, safe haven they need to refuel and relax... and will set up the way the rest of the day goes.
There is plenty of time for what you want to know. Be patient and meet your child where he or she is at the end of a long day. Parenting expert Bonnie Harris outlines five questions to avoid asking, especially if you want to avoid all that dramatic eye-rolling.
1. How was school today?
What if school was terrible? Your child may or may not want to tell you because he has a picture of exactly how you will react with his answer. Does he want to tell you the truth and have you get upset and immediately ask more questions? Or does he want to make you happy so you wonâ€™t do the above? Even if it all went well, he doesnâ€™t want to go through the details of the day.
Safest answer from a child: â€śFine.â€ť
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