An unforgettable Lesson in forgiveness
Bringing a spiritual perspective to daily life
She was crying when she told me that she thought we should "take a break" from our friendship.
What was this all about after being friends for six years? What I thought was just a bad week turned into months that taught me an unforgettable lesson about forgiveness.
I was really angry and hurt. I began to search every word and action to see if I could find the first offense, but there was no light there. She didn't want to talk about it, and my conversations with myself always hit a dead end. People who knew about the situation kept telling me it wasn't my problem, but that wasn't much consolation.
When I found myself crossing to the other side of the street so I wouldn't have to speak to her, I knew I needed to pray humbly to God to learn something more about the depth of real forgiveness. This was not something that I could figure out on my own.
Both my friend and I had turned regularly to God in our lives to solve problems, and I knew that I needed to trust that she was doing this now, too. I stopped looking at myself as the cause of the problem.
The simple thought stayed with me that if God was the only Cause and God was good, then He could bring forth only harmony, peace, joy - all the elements of friendship. If God, Love, was the source of this friendship, then God would always care for it in the best way possible.
One of the lines in the Lord's Prayer that Jesus gave to his disciples says, "Forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors." Mary Baker Eddy, the Discoverer of Christian Science, gave a spiritual interpretation of that line in her book, "Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures": "And Love is reflected in love" (page 17).