This International Women's Day, we can all make a difference.
Anasuyamma stood her ground. Even when her husband and in-laws poured kerosene on her. Even when they lit the match and held it near. Anasuyamma refused to go back to the days when a daughter couldn't wed unless a bride price or "dowry" was paid to the groom's family.
"A dowry degrades women," Anasuyamma told me last year from inside her village home in India. Sitting on floor mats around her were the women who helped save her life that day four years ago. She broke free, and with the support of those friends, she prevailed. Her daughter married without payment.
Every day throughout the world, women fight for equality, asserting their rights. But they rarely succeed alone. As in Anasuyamma's case, progress most often depends on collective action.
"A single woman can't change all social issues we face, but a dozen women can make a difference. You can easily break a single matchstick, but not 12 together. Unity is our strength," Anasuyamma said, referring to her village savings and loan group of women who support each other in this poor, dusty village called Dharmajipet. "Together, we are building businesses, educating our children, and improving healthcare here."
Anasuyamma's group pulled their money together and, over time, saved enough to start their own soapmaking business. These women – who recently taught themselves to write their names – make 3,200 bars every day. Then they sell them in markets. Using the profit, they send their children to school. One daughter is now the first from this village to attend college.
"We used to depend on our husbands for everything," said Anasuyamma. "Now we support our households. Before we didn't speak out, but now we have no fear."
There's power in numbers. As we approach International Women's Day on March 8, we can apply Anasuyam-ma's lesson of strength as we renew our commitment to women's rights around the globe.