Love – the great communicator
A Christian Science perspective on daily life.
Have you ever had a conversation with someone where the truth you wanted to convey just couldn't be heard? Whether those conversations go on between loved ones – parents and children, spouses, friends – or in casual social situations, they can leave a person feeling frustrated. What's the obstruction to effective communication? And what can be done about it?
It's uncomfortable to "lose your cool" or sputter helplessly when you most want to be understood, when you feel most fervently about a subject. But there's something to be learned from such experiences, and prayer can reveal it. We don't have to suffer frustration and helplessness when trying to share ideas with others – or sorrow and regret over unpleasant past conversations. There is an answer, and love can lead us to it.
A mother who was having arguments with her young daughter over just about everything told her little girl in the middle of one of them, "We don't seem to be getting anywhere arguing about this. Let's just love each other." The tension dissolved in smiles as they hugged each other. Maybe the disagreement wasn't resolved right then, but love certainly prepared the way for better communication at a later time. In that moment of need, divine Love communicated itself and proved that dissension doesn't have the power to override harmony.
Truth is important to all of us. Understanding what is true is foundational to how we live. But communicating truth to others requires "the spirit of our blessed Master," as Mary Baker Eddy, who founded Christian Science, said of Christ Jesus ("Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures," p. 571). Our motives must be pure. We can't be trying to put people in their place or prove our superiority.